Self-love

Loving, Trusting, and Letting Go

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Lessons in Loving Yourself - A Guest Post from Dr. Debra Reble

Trusting yourself and letting go are two of the most important spiritual principles you can practice on the path to loving yourself. Trusting yourselves helps you release whatever emotional blocks keep you disconnected from your true being—such as fear, insecurity, and shame. Letting go allows you to peel away the hard shell of your ego so you can experience the divine essence that lies beneath. These principles are synergistic: the more you let go, the more you learn to trust yourself; and the more you trust yourself, the more you can let go.

Too often we brace ourselves for change instead of letting go and embracing change as an opportunity to love ourselves and spiritually grow. We fear that by letting go we will fall down the rabbit hole, lose everything, most of all ourselves. If we have defined ourselves by our job, roles, or relationships, we may feel untethered, unhinged, and question who we are and what we really want. We can kick and scream our way through these intense periods of self-discovery and healing. Better yet, we can love, trust, and let go, allowing these “Oh My God” moments to shift to “What’s next?” moments.

Trusting yourself requires more than taking deep breaths and saying positive mantras; it takes a conscious connection to our divine source. It’s like having an invisible safety net while walking on a high wire. Even though you may feel like you are operating without backup, your connection to a divine source is in fact your safety net. When you trust this connection, you realize that you are not alone because your divine source is always with you.

Don’t think that by staying on the sidelines, strapped inside your fluorescent orange life jacket, you are safe, and won’t have to jump into the water. No, the universe doesn’t let you off the hook that easy. What you actually must do is take that leap of trust into the unknown and live the life you have always imagined.

Trusting yourself begins with one small step in the direction of your dreams. It grows by taking a leap of faith whether it’s starting a new job or relationship, taking a challenging class, or traveling somewhere you’ve never been before. Above all, making conscious choices that help you feel safe, value your time and energies, and are self-honoring deepen your sense of trust and self-love.

Here are a few ways to Love, Trust, and Let Go:

  • Spend time alone in quiet reflection, whether meditating at your desk, sitting in a garden, looking out a window, or writing in a journal. Begin with five minutes at the beginning and end of each day, then gradually increase the time to allow your vulnerabilities to surface.
  • If you've been putting off creating a vision board or “Leap List”, there's no time like the    present. Take some time and reflect on the areas that you need to let go into love and trust. Where do you want to take those leaps of trust in your relationships, career, health, or finances? What small steps can you make toward each new intention? Take one step.
  • Throughout the day, acknowledge yourself as a strong, loving, and confident person, connected to your divine source. Use the following mantras: I trust that everything always works out for my highest good. I am strong enough to handle any challenge that comes my way. I choose to embrace my vulnerabilities with all my heart.
  • Use “Bless and Release” as a daily mantra in your life. When any person or situation triggers negative emotions, bless them or the event for bringing this unhealed part of yourself into your conscious awareness. Release whatever has been unearthed for you so it doesn’t become a stuck place or energy block.
  • Notice when you feel unsettled, restless, or irritable. These are emotional cues for you that something is just below the surface of your conscious awareness and needs to be released. Sit, lie, or walk with any vulnerability or pain until it releases.
  • While sitting or walking, use your breath to assist you in letting go. Breathe in and look within with love of yourself, breathe out and look out to the world with love of others. Do this until our breath is rhythmic, and you feel calm and centered.

At this time of unprecedented global and personal transformation, you must love yourself and let go of more in your life than ever before. Trust that in letting go of one reality, you are opening the space to many new realities. This is the exquisite space of co-creation and positive no matter what it looks like at the time.

About Dr. Debra Reble

Dr. Debra Reble is the author of Being Love: How Loving Yourself Creates Ripples of Transformation in Your Relationships and the World now available. For a limited time, you’ll receive over 50 transformational gifts when you purchase a copy of Being Love. www.BeingLoveBook.com

Consciously merging her practical tools as a psychologist with her intuitive and spiritual gifts, Dr. Debra L. Reble empowers women to connect with their hearts and live authentically through her transformational Soul-Hearted LivingTM program. Debra is the author of Soul-Hearted Partnership: The Ultimate Experience of Love, Passion, and Intimacy, which garnered four book awards including the Eric Hoffer award. A frequent guest contributor to Aspire Magazine and other high-profile blogs, her words of wisdom are embraced by readers around the world. Her popular inspirational podcast, Soul-Hearted Living, airs on iTunes and other platforms and is dedicated to reconnecting women with their hearts.

Thanksgiving Can Be Every Day

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Thanksgiving Can (and should) Be Everyday

I am just busting full of gratitude today for all of the awesome people in my life and the exciting things that are happening!

Family Is Fabulous

Today we will happily subway out to the Three Star diner on Avenue U in Brooklyn for an early 4pm dinner with my uncle Bob and my cousins. Uncle Bob Lippin is my dad's older brother, and I don't think he ever saw himself outliving my parents and his wife Rita. Yet, he is still here to enjoy time with us as a family!

So when he asked if we would come out, we happily accepted!

Creative Self Love Month

November is normally quite stressful, but this year has been a bit more so. I really miss my parents this year, Smiley is another year older (and 13 is really old for a dog), and my body feels completely out of whack. Tires, bloated, and stressed. To address the latter, I went to my holistic doctor on Monday and had all of my hormone levels and thyroid checked, so I can hopefully take some action next week.

To address the former, I have been using Cheryl Bridges' new book, Me, Myself, & I ~ 28 Days of Creative Self-Love. The book includes inspiring pictures and artwork, links to uplifting music and videos, plus daily creative exercises and journaling cues.

Since I have huge issues with boundaries and saying no, I chose to spend more than one day focusing on this topic, which is still happening on Thanksgiving day.

When the lack of boundaries keeps us from speaking our needs clearly and saying “No,” when our hearts desire it, it’s not unusual that we end up doing things out of obligation. Resentment for what we’ve gotten ourselves into can sometimes be directed at the very person we had hoped not to hurt when we didn’t say “No” in the first place. We can become bitter when the situation happens again and again.

We have to let go of our overfunctioning concern about what the other person thinks or how they will react.

Yup!

Through the affirmations, meditations, and journaling, I am able to more clearly understand and see how my indiscriminate Yes was actually harming me. I even said no to a review opportunity this Thanksgiving morning and it felt great!

Learn more about the book and author at CreativeSelfLove.com or click here to purchase the kindle version of the book on Amazon.

Finally, here is an awesome interview with Cheryl Bridges about Me, Myself, & I ~ 28 Days of Creative Self-Love:

https://youtu.be/V5uP4ndzFQE

Note that I received this book free of charge in exchange for my unbiased review.

BODYPeace Movement - Love Yourself

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The BODYPeace Movement teaches self-love, spirituality, and honesty. Be at peace with your body!

If I learned anything in the past few years, it is the importance of self-love and honesty in my relationship with myself. Seriously! I lie to myself all the time.

Don't we all?

I tell myself things are fine when they are not. I tell myself that I will be in control and then I am not. Hell, many times I hate myself over these lies and the discomfort they bring.

I started working through some of these issues in my MindMap coaching training (more on this later, as I am still waiting for my final paper grade). And then, in the middle of those coaching loops, I met BODYpeace founders Heather Waxman and Kasey Arena via Fitfluential.

BodyPeace - Your Thoughts

Heather is a spirituality and meditation guru, while Kasey is a personal trainer and maker of Power Cakes. They have both been through times where they hated their bodies and tried to control things with disordered eating and crazy exercise. Between the two of them, they know quite a bit about the body, mind, and spirit.

BODYPeace stems from the premise that our bodies are not the problem, it is our thoughts about our bodies that are the problem. We attach negative emotions and ideas to our body that cause us harm.

BODYPeace is a 30-day inspirational journey that will help you shed shame and guilt and find lasting peace with your body. Through personal stories, meditations and transformational exercises, you will gain all the tools you need to break free from food jail and body prison.

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Once you purchase the BODYPeace book, you have access to the awesome extras - downloadable meditations, EFT (Tapping) videos, and exercise videos. There is also a private Facebook Group which offers more support and a place to share and vent.

This is a 30 day journey that involves guided meditation, journaling, joyful movement, and good food. The BODYPeace journey is not easy, and will have you really facing some difficult stuff, but offers the support to help you through.

I encourage you to try this program. We all know deep inside that "the thing is not the thing" (thanks Dax Moy). When we heal our relationship with ourselves, then working with our bodies becomes a joy instead of a burden. In the end, everything changes!

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