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Depression Invasion

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Depression invasion!

We had a wonderful day, went to sleep, and I woke up to a completely different husband.

It is only in the past few years that I truly understand that hubby has always been very very depressed. And depression sucks.

I thought it was me.

You see, in the past I used to blame myself. Since normal people do not just wake up in a hateful place for no reason, it had to be me, right?

I mean, I burnt the toast, didn't I?

And I forgot to take the butter out.

I didn't write down that ATM withdrawal and overdrew the account.

And my step-son freaked out and screamed for his mother all night.

So screaming, spitting, throwing, breaking, cursing, and then finally going to bed for a few days was an appropriate response, right?

My mother was bipolar, showing me both mania and deep, suicidal depression. I know not from appropriate responses.

And I would act out too, mind you. I screamed, broke things, cursed, and shook with anger. I often had a Bad Day.

I thought people were entitled to bad days.

About 10 years ago I started to work on myself. I kept journals, started a gratitude practice, and made a concerted effort to tell the truth always.

I dug for the positive, gave out lots of compliments, and started to forgive everyone, including my parents and myself.

I stopped holding grudges. I realized how much of my behavior was learned from my mother.

And I started to live a better life.

Suddenly I had more energy, now that I wasn't spending so much on anger, resentment, and grudges.

Suddenly I had more money, now that I was giving and spending appropriately and not either hording it or throwing is away.

Suddenly I had more opportunities, as my light grew and attracted others.

And suddenly, my marriage was better, as I forgave hubby and myself, stopped holding on to anger, and started telling the truth.

Hubby was still depressed.

Yup.

Not as angry, not as confrontational, but still depressed.

And even after we moved to NYC, with stable income, and he has written and published two books to some critical acclaim, he is still depressed.

Yesterday he was fine.

Truly! We took the ferry over to Governor's Island, explored Fort Jay and Castle William, had a picnic, got caught in a little rain, saw a huge hawk, and ordered sushi for dinner. A great day.

And he woke up this morning depressed.

Bad depressed. Like, "my life sucks and nothing matters and I hate my life" depressed. He is in bed as I type.

I feel like he has been invaded.

Today is a depression invasion!

How long will it last?

Who knows?

He will assure me that it is not my fault. And I know it isn't.

But it still sucks.

The Benefits of Pilates for Beginners

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The Benefits of Pilates for Beginners

As the national battle against obesity in the US continues to gather momentum, so does the fight in the UK. Hardly a week goes by without a new brand or food item being placed under the microscope. This week it was soft drinks giant Coca-Cola's turn in the UK media spotlight, with their controversial plans to fund a £20 million anti-obesity fitness drive in 70 of the country’s regional parks. This is despite the fact that soft drinks such as Coke are considered to be key contributors to the rise of obesity in the UK.

While the debate surrounding unhealthy food and drink items continues to rage, there is ample opportunity for individuals to make informed decisions about their fitness and nutrition, developing a more active lifestyle. Exercises methods such as Pilates offer a relevant case in point, as they can be easily learned and practiced from the comfort of your own home.

UK Retailers such as Fitness Warehouse carry the specific items of equipment you will need to start your home exercise program.

Consider the following benefits of pilates for beginners.

Improve your Posture and Alignment

While the majority of us exercise to lose excess weight or improve our strength and conditioning, there are other benefits of enjoying regular physical activity. One of the greatest benefits of Pilates is that it helps to improve your posture, by aligning and balancing your skeleton so that each individual muscle is held at its ideal length.

Should you live the majority of your life with your body out of alignment, there is a significant risk that you will place undo strain on your ligaments, joints, and spine. This can cause significant pain when you are older, so it is important to consider this from an early age.

Enhance Movement and Flexibility

If you are an avid weight trainer, you may already be on the way to developing a strong and well-conditioned body. However, it is important to develop a balance between strength and flexibility when exercising. Pilates offers an ideal opportunity to focus on this balance.

Pilates will help to loosen your muscles and improve mobility as the strengthen, which in turn minimizes pain and assists you in developing greater levels of stamina. This will also help you to negate the physical impact of aging.

Improve Levels of Physical and Mental Endurance

On the issue of endurance, Pilates is an excellent way of improving your levels of physical stamina and mental performance. After all, endurance is often drawn from your reserves of mental strength, and by consistently practicing Pilates you will develop greater levels of focus and enhance your capacity to complete a range of physical activities.

Pilates therefore enables you to operate from a foundation of strength.

(in collaboration with Fitness Warehouse)

Marketing 101 for Trainers Part 2 - May 28, 2014

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Marketing 101 for Trainers, Part 2 - where Lynda Lippin will teach you how to attract, expand, and maintain your high-end client base.

The easiest way to earn a living doing any form of personal training is to have high income, high paying clients. The more you earn per hour, the fewer hours you need to work to make a comfortable living and the more you can have a life outside of the gym or studio.

But as I talk to my colleagues, I realize that so many trainers are scared to ask for more. So I asked myself,

"What skill sets must trainers have in order to be comfortable and happy asking for high fees and delivering the service and results that justify those fees?"

You know, I didn't always have all of these skills. I learned by trial and error (mostly by error).

But you don't have to struggle! You can learn from my mistakes.

I now train clients less than 35 hours per week. 32 of those hours are filled with recurring, standing appointments so I am able to actually do financial projections and budgets. Whether they are Real Pilates clients or my own privates, these clients pay well over $100 per hour for my time and are happy to have the opportunity. When someone lets go of a recurring time, it is typically filled within 48 hours.

Did I mention that I no longer work weekends? That I travel very little between studios? That I teach only one class, and that is for fun because I have people who would snag that as a recurring private in a second? And I only work three evenings (T, W, Th) per week?

Most importantly, I love my work and my clients again!

In this 90 minute Marketing 101 for Trainers workshop at Real Pilates in Tribeca, we will explore how to set yourself up to attract, expand, and/or maintain your very own high-end client base.

Episode 2 - Expanding and Maintaining Your High End Client Base Wednesday, May 28, 3:00 – 4:30pm $45 What do you as a trainer need to know about attracting great clients? In this workshop Lynda will share her secrets that keep her steadily busy in a city full of trainers who cost a lot less. Learn which skills are crucial, how to do more with less, and be adaptable while maintaining strong personal integrity.

Real Pilates, 177 Duane Street, New York, NY 10013, (212) 625-0777

If this is your first time visiting Real Pilates, use code LLGIFT at checkout, and you will receive a lovely welcome gift when you check in!

Sign up for Marketing 101 for Trainers Part 2 - Expanding and Maintaining Your High-End Client Base.

Obese Adults Get No Exercise

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Obese Adults in the US exercise less than 4 hours per year!

At minimum, for basic health, human beings should get about 20-30 minutes per DAY of vigorous, sweat producing exercise.

According to a recent study, obese Americans get about 1-4 hours per YEAR.

Basically, they move from chair to chair, rarely exerting enough to sweat or elevate their heart rates.

This finding shocked researchers!

"They're living their lives from one chair to another," said Edward Archer, a research fellow with the Nutrition Obesity Research Center at the University of Alabama at Birmingham. "We didn't realize we were that sedentary. There are some people who are vigorously active, but it's offset by the huge number of individuals who are inactive."

Basically, people drive or ride the bus or train to work, and then sit at a desk all day. Then they drive or ride home, read or play some video games, and go to sleep.

All I can say is, Wow! This is some serious sh*t we have gotten ourselves into.

Fitness pros, what can we do to change this?

We tend to preach to the choir and work those who already exercise.

How do we reach the mass of people who don't leave home or office?

 

A Nathan's Hot Dog for Dad

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Nathan's Hot Dog at Surf and Stillwell, Coney Island

For the past year,  my Dad has always mentioned one food item with longing - a Nathan's hot dog with mustard and sauerkraut.

Nathan's original Coney Island location.

You see, he grew up in Bensonhurst, right next to Coney Island, so those hot dogs had been a part of his life for 87 years, and a part of my life for 47.

Yesterday, the day after Dad's burial, hubby and I made the trek out to Coney Island on the N train. We went to the original Nathan's which is right across the street from the subway hub. (That's right, the Nathan's on the boardwalk is not the first one.)

Along with our hot dogs and fries, we bought a hot dog for Dad. I dressed it he way he liked it, with lots of sauerkraut and the mustard placed next to the dog, so it was neater to eat.

Coney Island SkyWe sat outside and ate, and remembered my Dad. I wasn't as sad, because now he is where he wanted to be, lying next to Mom forever.

Then we walked on the boardwalk, looking at the ocean, the kites, and the rides. And the sky!

And then we took the Q back home.

I hope you enjoyed that hot dog, Dad!

Burial with Military Honors

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All honorably discharged veterans in the US have a legal right to military honors at burial.

My father, Joseph Lippin, was a WWII veteran. He served in the Army as a clerk in both the American and European theaters from his draft in 1944-1946.

He always questioned his military honor, since he was so scared to even be there. I used to tell him that surviving that kind of ordeal and sticking it out when you are scared and don't want to be there is actually MORE honorable than for those who are more confident around violence and death.

Yesterday at his burial we arranged for military honors. His casket wore an American Flag, with the stars at his head.

When we arrived at the grave, there were two members of the US Army 3rd Regiment (the Old Guard) on guard. After we said Kaddish, they started to play a recording of Taps. They saluted my father, picked up the flag, and began a ceremonial fold, in which the flag is folded into 13 triangles that represent the original 13 colonies.

Then one guard came over and saluted me. I was overwhelmed with gratitude and saluted the young soldier back while thanking him for his service.

He then spoke,

This flag is presented on behalf of the President of the United States, a grateful nation, and the United States Army as a token of appreciation for your loved one’s honorable and faithful service.

And handed me the folded flag. Now I have my dad's flag.

It was a lovely, moving ceremony that made me feel so connected to history. And gave me a sense of closure.

Gratitude on Thanksgiving Day

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Gratitude

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As 2012 draws to a close I increasingly feel the need to reconnect with important people in my life and thank them. If you are reading this, thank you for the connection and the support!

I enter into my second year in New York with a wonderful job at Real Pilates, a robust and growing private client list, and emerging consulting opportunities that will have me working again with old friends and making new ones in other parts of the world. Life is good!

At the same time that I am embracing opportunity, I am also faced with endings. My father recently fell, spent three weeks in hospital, and I moved him to an assisted/independent living facility. In addition, I recently signed the paperwork for my mother to be in hospice care until she passes of liver cancer. While this is a big part of why I returned to the states, it is also a deeply difficult and trying experience in ways I never imagined. I am so very grateful to be here to assist them as much as possible.

And apparently NYC is now a hurricane spot. Instead of swapping hurricane season for winter, as I had envisioned, I now have both. We live in a skyscraper near the South Street Seaport, and were without power for a week and heat/hot water for about 11 days after Sandy. But we were lucky. Many of our friends and neighbors lost everything. I am grateful to have simply been inconvenienced.

A daily gratitude practice is a truly powerful catalyst for positive life changes, and if you don't have one, Thanksgiving in the US is the perfect day to start one. Simply take some time every day to write down everything you are grateful for. Some days it may simply be that you woke up and finally had a hot shower.

Half-price Pilates Audios

Just this week I saw a client, a journalist currently based in Hong Kong. He uses all of Pilates audios at home and while traveling, telling me that, "you have made such a difference to my lower back issues with your audios."

Each Pilates audio is about 30 minutes of exercise and can be played on your computer, iPod, or other device. Regularly priced at $7.77 each. Choose from:

  • Pilates for Neck and Shoulder Pain
  • Pilates for Lower Back Pain
  • Pilates with Ring and Foam Roller
  • Pilates Basics Mat Class

Use the code gratitude at checkout and receive 50% off your total through Sunday 25 November. Lynda Lippin Pilates Shop

Post-Thanksgiving Classes at Real Pilates

If you are in NYC, come work out with me at Real Pilates tomorrow, Friday 23 November.

  • 4pm Pilates Mat
  • 5pm Kettlebells
  • 6pm SpringTONE

Space is limited, so sign up early! Real Pilates Web Scheduler